It seems I've hit a talkative time.
I wish people wouldn't fear that their adult children are going to pop out from under a rock and cause more problems or steal the custodial grandchildren. I well understand it, though. So, I'm not going to harp and say "Please follow me via Google" when I know what it takes some days to go out into daylight, court order or no court order.
My personal Battle of the Bulge? I'm working on it. It's about a pound a week. I am getting more exercise. I got into a pair of jeans that haven't fit for over 9 months.
Sorry there were a few of you who felt my entry on the intercession of saints is somehow demonic. One Lutheran lady was nice enough to tell me about the festival days the Lutherans have in honor of certain saints, so that was a plus.
And I am well aware that Adam and Eve were evicted from the Garden of Eden, AKA Paradise. That's why I said the suburbs of Paradise. I figured they hadn't gotten the riding animals or making handcarts or any of that worked out, what with figuring out farming and birthing then raising Cain and Abel, and were probably farming the region outside the gates. Why else would God post angels with fiery swords? No, I don't think Adam and Eve are in Hell.
Yes Gunny, I can see the resemblance, but I don't think my ex-husband is Cain still walking the earth. He was an airdale in the Navy, and that might have something to do with it. ;-) Just kidding, Navy Air! :-)
For the Catholic lady who responded, yes, indeed, I have Masses said for Madame, my son-in-law and my grandson. They are remembered in our family prayers. I have a couple convents and a monastery praying for them as well. I try to offer up whatever pain I'm caused by this for their salvation and eventual restoration of the family bond. But I am leery of total consecrations to Our Lady of people who aren't very cooperative with graces. As the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't drag them kicking and whinnying to confession.
Mac, you are not the first person to have trouble with the IRS in regards to a related adoption. We are fighting this very same argument right now. The law, which you will find in Publication 17, as well as the instructions for form 8839, clearly states adoption of a SPOUSE'S CHILD, not a grandchild. Right, now the IRS is grasping at straws, any way it can to make a buck. I'm skipping the resolution center in Holtsville and taking all my stuff to tax court. So far, I've managed to settle the Mister's mileage to my satisfaction there. I think perhaps the court would love to know that the IRS thinks it can bamboozle grandparents into not claiming the adoption credit.
My friend: What a nice surprise after all these years! I'm sorry you're going through something similar. Yes, it does help to have the support of a good husband. Please don't be a stranger, and it was very clever of you to figure out I was the one writing this.